I find this surprises a lot of women, so let me explain. But I can see where the myth comes from, because men disappearing after sex happens — a lot. I chat to clients and women every day who are sick of men only after one thing.
Last week we somehow ended up in bed together. It felt comfortable and natural. He used to text me all the time and now he never texts me unless I text him first.
People hear this a lot. A perplexed lady trying to figure out why a once hot friend has now cooled. A guy that a woman involves herself with and ultimately becomes intimate with, suddenly stops being super attentive once she goes into the Tommie Strong book with a GTD entry next to her name.
But why would a guy do that? When do things start meaning to a man? So tell me about your experiences. I am just trying to understand the psyche.
And once you have it, theres nothing exciting left. It may turn into a serious relationship leading to marriage, kids etc, etc. Next thing you at the sink in an apron or at church singing Kumbaya my lord, lol.
It's the new riddle of the Sphinx: "Why didn't he call me back? You think it went well and expect to see him again… but then poof! He vanishes inexplicably.
If you and a man hit it off, trade numbers, talk for a while or trade emails, but he never seems to make the initiative to actually see you—then something else is going on. Men often have a hard time sharing the truth about their feelings with women they've just met. Maybe he's already seeing someone else.
A fter having another date flake on her over the weekend, a brand new client of mine, Jenna, came to me to ask what in the world could possibly be going so wrong in her dating life. The conversation flowed; we got along on heaps of topics, went for dinner, had nice walks along the river, deserts, everything! I was in complete bewilderment.
Note: Remember this is for discussion purposes only, not to judge either men or women for their actions. Every individual is responsible for their own behaviour But let's face it, if he said he was going to the shop and never came back, you may have got 'beated and deleted'.
Sometimes, you might not even want to see the guy again yourself — you were just looking for a night of fun — but it still stings when he withdraws. Other times, you were hoping a friendship would blossom into something more once you got down and dirty together, but instead, it slowly vanishes into nothing. There are a few reasons men tend to get distant after sex — and a few different ways to handle it. This makes us want to do things like cuddle, spill our deepest secrets, and have lots of babies.